The child can overhear you lying to a neighbor or friend and the impact
could be the same. Breaking a promise, the same as lying, is another
reason children don't trust.
A promise is usually made to someone when something is very important.
The breaking of that promise causes the child to feel as though the subject
was not important to the parent. Keep your word to your child at all costs,
but when something unexpected prevents you from keeping a promise,
sit down and explain the circumstances to the child. Explain how you couldn't
be in two places at once, and so on.
Never just announce to the child that you couldn't make it and that's
the end of the subject. Give them an explanation, just as you would
expect if someone you love lied to you.
what he did. Once a child sees that he can come to you with problems,
he will be more likely to trust you with his troubles in the future.
through their belongings and their room. This is a definite way to
get your child not to trust you.
personal belongings, you are telling the child that you don't trust him.
If you don't trust them, why should they trust you? Trust is usually a
mutual thing and when one doesn't trust, often, the other won't either.
him with respect, keep your word, let him know how much you love him,
don't break your promises, don't be a hypocrite and take the time to explain
to the child if something prohibits you from doing what you promised.
It's important to keep the trust of your child for a future relationship with him
that is loving and trusting.
- Never tell a lie, always tell the truth. And, say it kindly and tactfully.
- Be real; do not act like somebody you are not.
- Do not gossip about other people's life. The one you are talking to may
think you are gossiping her at her back. The worst scene is - she even pass
what you said to other people too.
- Never betray a confidence. Do not tell the secrets confided to you.
- Keep all the promises you made. If you cannot keep a promise,
better not to promise at all.
- When you borrow something, always return it as soon as possible on time.